• Tuesday, November 30, 2010

    Secret Tips to Fix Marriage

    By Cindy Green


    You and your spouse have been having some problems and you feel that your marriage might be over. If this situation is happening to you, it can be a heartbreaking and yet difficult time. There are still things you can do to fix marriage. Here are a few tips to mend your marriage.

    The most important thing to remember is that communication must be flowing between both the husband and the wives. The most common thing a person does when a significant other, does or says something hurtful without realizing it, is ignore it without saying it a word about it. After a while many things that were said or done that hurt, have began to accumulate.

    These feelings that you have accumulated or shrugged off will tend to come out when you least expect them. If you and your spouse start arguing over something small, these feelings will probably come out. Once your emotions starts coming out that you have bottled up, the small situation will grow into something bigger. This is how accumulated bad feelings tend to come out at the wrong time.

    Since your spouse knows that it bothered you, the next time a similar situation comes up; he will choose his words carefully or do things differently to spare your feelings. This is why communication is the number one way to keep a marriage intact. You get to express your feelings without bottling them up.

    Another thing that you and your loved one can do to try and fix things is by going back to the beginning. Remember when things used to be all about love when you two first met. You would leave each other love notes or say 'I love you' in the most unexpected times. These are little things that are taken for granted after being married for years. You should think back on the things that you two did for one another and re-do these things.

    Re-visit the places you two used to go out to as a date. Go to your favorite spot, or to dance your song as a couple. All these things can make you remember why you loved your partner in the first place. If you have children find a baby sitter for the night and enjoy each others company. Sometimes this is all that is needed to help fix things between you and your loved one.

    Another thing you can do to try and make things right in your marriage is take a trip together. Plan a vacation together with your spouse. Sometimes the stress of every day life can put a strain on a marriage. Perhaps something at work is stressing you out. That stress can tend to be released at your spouse when you come home, and causing arguments between the two of you. Maybe even stress from taking care of the children can cause this.

    Your vacation can be for just the weekend, or a week, to even a month. The point is to spend that time with one another to get back the good times you two shared. It is also important to keep the communication flowing while you are on this vacation to fix marriage. Doing these things can definitely improve your marriage.




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